Today Im going to talk about why a woman will gladly give you her phone number, but then choose not to meet up with you or even answer your calls.

As we all know, the purpose of getting a woman's phone number is to enable contact at a later time to possibly take things further.

Sounds good in theory.

However in practice, things can sometimes go quite differently.

Im sure many of you have obtained a womans phone number only to dial it and hear something like:

This phone has been disconnected.

Sorry mate, wrong number...

Infuriating isnt it?

Or, when you call and get a lukewarm response from her:

Maybe some other time...Ive been real busy lately.

What is going on when this happens?

To understand it a little better, lets look at some of the events prior to obtaining a womans phone number. For the purpose of this explanation, stop and imagine that youre an attractive woman. Dont worry, you can go back to being a man in a minute!

Okay, so youre an attractive woman standing at a bar and a guy walks up and chatting to you.

He asks what you do for a job, then replies with his profession. You spend the next 10 minutes hearing about his current and past employment. Its a boring run-of-the-mill conversation and youre in the mood to have some fun, so you tell him that you have to go the bathroom.

When you come back, another guy walks up and starts chatting to you.

Within seconds youre both laughing and having a great time.

Its a two-sided conversation.

He flirts with you and is actually listening to what youre saying. While laughing and sharing of stories of your travels with him, you end up reliving the emotions you felt overseas all those years ago. You finish feeling like you have made a connection with him.

Okay, you can stop being an attractive woman now.

Which guy would the woman most likely want to see again?

Youre right.

The second one.

Now, this is where most guys go wrong, so pay attention:

A lot of guys will spend the whole time talking about themselves, laughing at their own jokes and exchanging boring information such as: Age, occupation, location. They will then ask the woman for her number.

From a WOMANS PERSPECTIVE, this makes little sense.

You know NOTHING about her so she will naturally conclude that its only her LOOKS that youre interested in or that you're desperate and have no standards.

Alternatively, when you:

a) Spark the attraction.
b) Have a two-sided conversation.
c) Flirt and create sexual tension.
d) GENUINELY get to know her.
e) Qualify her to your standards.

It will demonstrate that there are REASONS other than her appearance that you have asked for her number. When you call, she will know that there are genuine reasons WHY youd want to meet up.

Makes sense.

So what do I mean by Qualify her to your standards?

Essentially, it means that you have found out details about her and her life. You now possibly know:

- If shes funny.
- If shes intelligent.
- If shes fun to be around.
- What she values in life.
- If shes a good cook.
- What suburb she lives in.
- Where she has travelled too.
- What she does for fun in her spare time.
- If shes interesting and worth getting to know better.
- Starting to get the picture?

Great.

Here are some general guidelines for getting a womans phone number to follow-up on it later:

1) Listen.
2) Remember that its a conversation, not an interrogation. Keep things flowing by making statements/talking from your perspective as well as asking questions.
3) Get to know her.
4) Keep it genuine.
5) Be playful.

Follow these guidelines and your success with following up on phone numbers will improve significantly.

Cheers

Ben