Every great sex life is prone to being caught in the doldrums from time to time. The average libido is completely fickle and unpredictable . You may have tried it all to spice up your sex life, but one very spectacular and often ignored method of revving your partner's engine is through the element of surprise.

Create the unexpected, delight them with your thoughtfulness and break away from the routine. One great way to add a spicy flair to the evening is by having your partner come home to his own personal naked chef ...you. Wear a great big apron and nothing else but a devilish smile. Be a sexier version of yourself by purchasing lingerie that you otherwise wouldn't wear. Visit a local spa and have a Brazilian wax done (all hair in the nether region is waxed away). If you're the creative type, opt for a heart shape or the traditional porno landing strip.

If you want to blow his mind, wake him up with some oral satisfaction. Keep the lights off and slowly caress your Romeo until he's on the verge of waking. His reaction to your ministrations will give you a signal on whether you should proceed, and don't just consider an erection a green light. Guys can get in on the game too, use soft kisses and caresses and try not to zero in on breasts and vagina first. Surprising your partner orally can also take place in many unexpected places like the shower, your home office or under the dinner table.

Next time you're getting you're groove on, tie your partner to the bed with a silk tie or blind fold them. Delight your partner with a new toy, if you're unsure of their reaction, start with non intimidating toys like cockrings or small vibrators. Next time you rent a pg movie to watch together, secretly exchange it with a more sinful x-rated alternative.

The element of sexual surprise can be used in many abundant ways, challenge yourself to stray from your norm and you are bound to find your very own pleasure filled garden of eden.