Not everyone needs a therapist, but we all need insights and solutions for successful living, says Marriage, Family Therapist Helene Rothschild. Early in her counseling practice, she realized that we are unique, but our problems are not. The same issues kept coming up to be healed.

We are our worst enemies, says Rothschild. Her very first clients taught her about the Fear of Success. A part of us wants a loving relationship, a healthy, slim body, prosperity, and a successful career. As crazy as it seems, an unconscious part of us is afraid to have the very things we desire.

For example, John was afraid of a promotion because he thought he would not have enough time for himself and his family. Janice blocked prosperity because she did not believe that she deserved it. When she was a child, she hurt her younger sister.

Mary was afraid to lose weight because she could not handle the male attention when she is slim. Barry desired a relationship but a part of him was afraid that he would be too vulnerable and get hurt. When he was a young boy, he felt rejected by the girl next door.

Susan, a young, attractive, bright young lady, had a serious car accident because she felt guilty that she had more than her friends and family. She now has a scar on her forehead.

To quickly assist the clients to overcome their blocks to success and allow themselves to reach their personal and professional goals, Rothschild developed a process she calls HART which stands for Holistic And Rapid Transformation.

The key is, explains Rothschild, that we make decisions based on our experiences. These decisions are often negative or FEAR based (False Evidence Appearing Real). However, they are in our unconscious and run our lives until we change them to positive ones.

For example, when Johns father yelled at him, he decided that he must be a bad boy and he does not deserve to be happy or successful. Sandys mother was too busy to spend time with her. She decided that she was unimportant and unworthy.

The children in school teased Bonnie and she decided that she was not good enough, or okay. Davids grandfather was annoyed with him when he had trouble tying his shoes. He decided that he must be stupid.

These decisions hurt our self-esteem, and cause us to sabotage our relationships and careers. It takes two people with high self-esteem and good communication tools to have a healthy relationship and to be successful parents. Feeling good about yourself is necessary for you to be happy, healthy, and successful.

Rothschild believes success is an internal feeling of peace and power which comes from being who you are and doing what you truly want to do. She learned that by counseling many clients who were wealthy and successful by societys perspective. They had a beautiful home, new cars, wonderful families, time for vacations, etc, but the truth was that they felt unhappy and unsuccessful.

Addictions, Rothschild feels, are things we do to extreme to avoid our unhappiness due to low self-esteem. They are the symptoms and not the causes of our problems. Addictions are an attempt to feel better but they just worsen the situation. We need to learn healthy ways to feel good.

Rothschild recommends that people take control of their lives and learn how they are feeling and what they are thinking. She calls it, Conscious Living. To assist more people to help themselves, she developed a self-help, on line program, Personal Success. She also offers free articles including, Healing Your Body, Dear to Be Slim, Six Keys to Successful Parenting, and Love Is Not Enough.

Her latest published book, ALL YOU NEED IS HART! Create Love, Joy and Abundance NOW! A unique guide to Holistic And Rapid Transformation, explains her empowering process and includes many self-help exercises.

Rothschild says, You can create what you want in your life and you deserve it all. Go for it!